Befriending And Being A Confidante For One’s Crush

Sadly, but unfortunately, this is an activity that many engeedee's (NGD's or nerds/dorks/geeks) engaged it.

They meet someone that have the hugest crush on. To them, this person is the be-all and end-all of the opposite sex. The perfect soulmate.

The fact that the crush would never date a person like the engeedee doesn't matter. The engeedee knows better than the crush anyway!

Since the engeedee is too afraid to ask the crush out - for fear of rejection - which, unfortunately, is usually NOT a groundless fear. The crush would - and does - reject any advances the engeedee would - or does - make!

But as I was saying, as the engeedee is too afraid to ask the crush out, the engeedee tries and settles for being a friend of the crush. Which, quite frankly, is just the way the crush likes it!

If the engeedee is a male, he basically becomes another girlfriend or the equivalent of a gay friend for the girl. She doesn't really see him as a sexual person. That's why she is so comfortable with him, and willing to tell him all her secrets. He's a safe male to her.

And if he tries to suggest something romantic, she just laughs it off.

I'm not 100% certain what the situation is like when the engeedee is a female and the crush male. But if tv shows and movies are any indication, it's not good. They show the crush putting up with the engeedee because he likes the attention. And he uses her for as much as he can get out of her. And then laughs at her if she suggests there is anything romantic.

And truth be told, the female crush often makes use of the male engeedee, getting him to do things for her to stay in her good graces.

To close, I must say this in the crushes' defense, they couldn't use the engeedees, if they didn't let them. If you had someone constantly throwing themselves at you, wouldn't you be tempted to make use of them?

About

This is, of course, a blog about nerds, geeks, and dorks - or as I sometimes called them ngd's or engeedees.

I know there is a difference between the three, but for the purpose of this blog, we will not dwelve into that. For those of you curious, here are some links...

The Rawness: Nerds, Geeks and Dorks: A Primer
Ask Yahoo: What's the difference between a nerd, a geek, and a dork?
Ask Metafilter: What's the difference between a geek, a nerd and a dork?

OkCupid test to see if you're a nerd, geek, or dork
A test from NerdTests.com to see how much of a nerd, geek and dork you are

This blog will hopefully be a study on what activities and things engeedees engage in. And although it is called Dorktivities, it will study the activities of nerds, geeks and dorks.

This column was inspired the blog, Stuff White People Like. But I didn't want to write just about the stuff engeedees like. Then I found the blog, Mantivities! A blog about "activities that Men do".

Then I knew what my blog needed to be. I kind of considered it a companion or sister blog to Mantivities. While Mantivities covers what Manly Men do, my blog will cover what the other men do.

I have to admit, I don't know how often I will be posting on here. I already have a regular blog I do and two "irregular" blogs associated with it. Plus, my Twitter account.

But I feel this is a blog that needs to be done, so I'm open to submissions. Feel free to send your new and old descriptions of activities that nerds, geeks, and dorks engage in. If you want to get an idea of what I'm looking for, check out our sister blog, Mantivities. But your entries can be longer. But I prefer entries NOT take longer than 10 minutes to read.

Also, if you do submit, I will be happy to put your name under the title - though you can be anonymous if you like - and provide a link to any of your websites. And all the writers will be listed on the side with a link to whatever sight they'd like to be linked to.

If you have any questions, feel free to email me at oldermusicgeek(at)yahoo(dot)com!

If you wish to know more about engeedees - nerds, geeks and dorks - I recommend the following...

Books:
Kick Me: Adventures In Adolescence by Paul Feig
American Nerd by Benjamin Nugent
Nerds: Who They Are and Why We Need More of Them by David Anderegg

DVD's:
Freaks And Geeks
Big Bang Theory
Square Pegs
Lucas
Superbad
Napoleon Dynamite
Mean Girls
Joan Of Arcadia
Dexter's Laboratory
The Adventures of Jimmy Neutron: Boy Genius
Chuck
Never Been Kissed
The Fairly OddParents
Glee


CD's
Violent Femmes by Violent Femmes
My Aim Is True by Elvis Costello
Talking Head 77 by Talking Head
More Songs About Building And Food by Talking Heads
Q: Are We Not Men? A: We Are Devo! by Devo
The Presidents Of The United States Of America by The Presidents Of The United States Of America
The Presidents Of The United States Of America II by The Presidents Of The United States Of America
Gordon by Barenaked Ladies
Any cd by They Might Be Giants

If you have any suggestions for this list, feel free to send them to me at oldermusicgeek(at)yahoo(dot)com.